WHY Men’s ISSUES?

Numerous therapists and members of the public have inquired as to why I have chosen to concentrate on men’s issues. They often wonder why I choose to address these concerns instead of directing my attention and assistance towards other victimized and marginalized groups. In response to their inquiries, I emphasize the critical need to prioritize support and assistance for men, as they are the ones who require our help the most.

Men face disproportionately high rates of death by suicide, substance abuse, workaholism, violence, and often experience challenges in identifying and expressing their emotions. This is further compounded by the challenges in emotional intimacy and relationship issues that plague many couples today. In fact, divorce rates have reached an all-time high and mostly initiated by female partners. Every day, men put on a brave face, suppressing their struggles, and silently enduring their pain. This can be traced back to societal expectations and the constraints imposed by the “boy box” in which boys are socialized into men. We are not born men, but we are made.

Given the undeniable facts presented above (which I did not fabricate), when I am questioned about why I have chosen to commit my life to the field of men’s psychology and working with men, my response is simply, “Why not prioritize the group that requires it most?” By focusing on addressing men’s pain, we can potentially reduce the harm they may inadvertently cause in the world, leading to a healthier society overall.